What things bring happiness

I am not one of those people that is always happy. I have my days that are up and those that are down. I have spent many days in my life dealing with depression and sadness of things that are going on in my life. I have been frustrated with how my life is going. Thinking “I should be further along in life than I am!” But you know what? That is ok. I will get where I am suppose to be at the right time. Whether you call it Gods Timing, The Universe or Karma either way it will be ok. And I can be frustrated about it sometimes.

I do not think that being 100% optimistic is good either. Sometimes you just need to be sad, sometimes you need to cry ( I know some men out there are saying no way), but it is the truth. We should spend time in our sadness, grief and other things that we go through.

The key is not staying there. I hear a great man, Tony Robbin’s, put it this way. You should do the 90 second rule. Which is allowing yourself to stay in the sad, depressed, mourning, grief, etc state for 90 seconds. Then you should turn around and state 5 things you are grateful for.

My husband is one of those people that is always saying that things aren’t really that bad. He is/was a Marine in the US Marine Corps. So his favorite saying is “ Well, no one is shooting at us so everything is ok”. This use to frustrate me so badly! I would say, well I have never truly been shot at so I cannot relate to that! Why can’t you meet me where I am……lol. But he had a point. And it has taken me a few years to start working on my own mindsets to be happy.

I have gotten to the point where I don’t want to be miserable anymore. And I am happy to say that a lot of it was started by just being Grateful. Sometimes I would be so desperate that I would have to sit down and watch stupid cat videos online just to bring some joy. And surrounding myself with positive people. People that will hear my sadness or frustration, but then help me find the upsides soon after.

So if I could say anything, just find some time every day to be grateful. My youngest children and I spent 10 minutes today taking turns just saying what we are grateful for. One of my children has a habit of only telling me stories of the bad things that are happening to him. In fact he can remember those bad things for a long time and cannot hardly remember good memories. So I have decided to work with the whole family on being grateful and not be a victim of depression and rejection.

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Dena Patterson